I’m not a fan of lables, but my siblings and I were “boomerang kids.”
We all went away to college and upon graduation, our parents invited us to move back home and we took them up on their offer. We picked up after ourselves, made family meals, did grocery shopping, helped around the house, paid rent and our own bills and saved up to move on to the next stage of our lives. Life was similiar to what it had been prior to going to college, because we were not coddled before or after college.
I think it is great that some parents are able and want to help their children with whatever means they choose. Receiving a car, European vacation, money for groceries, bills or rent, a downpayment on a house, money for a wedding or free childcare while you work do not seem to carry the same stigma as living your parents, but all are forms of parental support. Somewhere along the way my peers defined the types of parental help that are acceptable and living with parents ranked low.
From all I’ve gathered, people would hold higher regard for me if I sunk into debt, just as long as I don’t live with (gasp!) my parents. Or that I could live in my own apartment and ask my parents for help in paying my rent and bills, because no one would have to know I need help because after all I’m in my own place – I’m independent!
My siblings and I may not be representative of all the “boomerang kids,” but I don’t think you can paint all “boomerang kids” with a broad brush of being lazy, immature, irresponsible, living rent-free on easy street, presumed to be spending all their income on “toys” and derailing their parents’ financial future. For every extreme there’s an opposite!
Readings that led to this post:
34 and living with his parents?
Do You know a Boomerang Kid?